I regret to say this, but HIMYM (How I met your mother), a popular television series, encourages the "urban tribe" The urban trive is a bunch of guys in their twenties who graduated from college and have no clue what to do with their lives. They populate coffee shops, art museums, outdoor rec and yes, Grad schools. Guys go get a life!!
Ted Mosby?? No. If you want the girl of your dreams, go ask her. If she tells you to go for a hike, so what ? Enjoy the hike ! Please, don't let the comfort and security of the urban tribe comfort you into a life of non-doing. Our time on this planet is limited. Do you want make something of it or not????